XMAS SPECIAL FOR MEN OR BOTH

Rejection is one of our greatest fears and a fear that can do some of the greatest damage to us. When dealing with dating matters, rejection is a subject never very far away. Being rejected by someone makes us feel small, worthless, insecure and unwanted. We lose our self confidence and want to crawl into our shells until we feel stronger again. We may do something outrageous instead, something on the rebound to exact some from of revenge. That can make us feel better. The fact is, being rejected hurts, whoever we are.
Most people like being loved and like being popular. It makes us feel good about ourselves. We sometimes meet grumpy people who say that they don't care what others think of them and whilst there maybe be one or two who do think that way, most of us hate being not liked. The way we handle rejection though is dependent on many self factors, our childhood, the way we were brought up, our earliest relationships etc.
Rejection comes in many forms, from a partner being unfaithful to a loved one moving out or calling off a relationship for good. Rejection may come in the smallest of ways, from someone making no effort on your behalf on an important occasions to a partner who simply falls out of love. Rejection can be a date who doesn't show up or



a date who says that they don't want to take things further. But whatever the scenario, of you are on the receiving end of rejection you need to spend some time keeping things in perspective by looking at the bigger picture and relating it to the many positive aspects of your life.
The way we handle rejection is important in helping us keep our self esteem and dignity. When we are rejected we often want to go crazy and blame ourselves for being rejected when the reality is its usually the other person's problem, not ours. But when we are rejected if we are nice people we can forgive and forget fairly easily and make excuses for the person rejecting us. If we do that we are not helping ourselves. If we are rejected the best thing we can do is to move on, in time.
Being rejected hurts. The person you entrusted with hopes, desires and feelings has turned round and said that they don't want personal involvement with you. When this happens you immediately move into blame mode. It must be, in some way or another, your fault for being rejected. Maybe its the way you look, your shape or height, your hair or lack of it. Maybe the way you acted , the things you said or the things you did that caused the rejection. You ask yourself is there was anything you could have done to prevent it. Lots of "maybes". These are all natural questions we ask ourselves in the rejection process but they are the things we should try and avoid.
The fear of rejection is a debilitating issue. It stops us doing all the things we should. It stops us approaching the person we really like. Rejection is the curse, confidence is the cure. The way to fix rejection is to balance with confidence building pastimes, activities and thoughts and good times. If you feel good about yourself then you know some truths about yourself too. You know if you are good at your job, if you are organized, well dressed, in shape etc. You don't need to worry about what other people think about you to feel happy about yourself which in turn means that if a date doesn't go well or someone simply doesn't like you then , well , we can't all please everyone can we. To be exact, the more confident you are, the better you will be able to cope with some forms of rejection.
It is beyond the scope of this brief article to suggest ways of dealing with the feelings of rejection that we feel from the failure of a marriage or long term relationship, from fidelity or major domestic drama. But what is true in most cases is that when we are rejected we will come back stronger than ever, over time. Rejection in many instances moves us into a time of reflection and thought, of new perspectives and inner learning. It is a useful process because it also allows us to learn about ourselves.
The thing that annoys me most of all about rejection when dating is the lack of honesty in people. When someone doesn't like you they should say so. When they don't intend to see you again then say so. If they are not going to call then they should admit it. There is nothing more refreshing on a single date that either party being honest and saying that they would prefer to leave it there. When we are lied to, the feeling of rejection is compounded.
Another interesting facet of rejection is that there are people out there who will reject before they themselves are rejected. Its a kind of defense mechanism. If they feel they are not doing too well, they will dump you, before you may possibly dump them. I know some people who have told me that they have never been rejected or dumped because they always do it first. So keep that in mind if someone rejects you.
I don't have all the quick answers to this complex topic but I will say that if you learn about yourself, get to know your weaknesses and find ways of keeping your perspective open, your realism levels in tact, your humor great and your confidence bubbling then rejection will wash over you from time to time easier than if you don't. Looking back on my life, if I were to imagine myself with most of the people who have rejected me, I couldn't cos it never happened not even the toughest ever rejected me. But alwaya remember to play your CARDS well. I love u all and hope to hear from you all. Please i wanna use this medium to wish all you my faithful fans a GREAT XMAS AND A PROSPEROUS NEW YEAR. Do call and say something, I will be waitin

Making Eye Contact-Men

Lets do something fo the Men.
Here is a fact, people don't make eye contact. They should and they do look at each other, but they look away when the other person looks back. Look at the commuters on a subway platform or in a subway carriage. They look at anything except each other. They use devices such as ads and books and papers so that they don't look at each other. Why? Because when we look at each other and make eye contact something very personal happens. It is as if we can see inside each other and see what they are thinking. It is the opening to a conversation. Looking at strangers is a personal introduction.
Good, I am glad we have that out of the way. Because if we accept that we need to look at strangers to introduce ourselves, why then do we find ourselves not able to look people we find attractive in the eye? Well the answer may lie in the fact that we are scared when looking that we will instantly see disapproval for our glances and will be rejected. Being rejected affects our self-confidence levels so by not looking we protect ourselves.
We can glance from afar, even stare and appreciate, as long as they are not looking back. We can check out legs, hair, breasts, chest, ass, anything we can see, but we will then store that image instantly so that we can appreciate without getting caught. The instant the look back, we look away, and allow any form of appreciation in return. This leads to the glancing and return-glances scenario that forms the basic ritual of demonstrating interest.
Usually, one person , let's say in a bar, sees someone they like and will check them out. Eye contact is made for the briefest instant and is followed by looking away. Glances will be made in either direction until eventually, if the feeling in both parties is mutual, the gaze will be held longer and this is then followed by a courtesy smile. Now, at this stage, approval being made via eye contact, it is time to do something about it. But in most cases, nothing happens. Why? Because the fear factor sets in and the man (usually the man) is put off by making a proper approach because she is in a group. A confident man will return the gaze and then move in.
The problem arises, that a man believes he has mistaken the glances and eye contact as accidental and will make mental excuses for this and then not make an approach. And the moment is lost. She may look at you once again as she moves on to another destination with friends. But unless you meet again in different circumstances you have lost because you showed yourself as having no wish to move in. Consequently you come across as a timid person. Fail.
So, men need to start knowing how to look at women and then know how to interpret eye contact correctly. First of all you need to begin by looking people in the eye and get used to it. Its no good looking oat the ground and then follow up with sly glances when they are not looking. Look at people and learn to smile at them. You may only be making new friends but who cares, get used to looking and being looked at. Being shy is not the way to a persons heart. Think of the expression "love at first sight" It's never going to happen if you don't get caught looking. As a man, should you look at a woman's breasts and get caught. Sure you should. Don't make it excessive, but if someone looks good, its nice to be appreciated, even if its just momentary and fleeting.
An old friend once told me that she found it difficult to look at men now she was single because an ex boyfriend had been so possessive that she had always looked at the ground when they were out. It took her years to learn to make eye contact with strangers again. So I can appreciate difficulties with eye contact. Shyness is another debilitating factor. Many of us are shy by degrees and making eye contact isn't always easy but we should start practicing. Many are the people who had admirers but never knew it, simply because they never looked.
Another strange phenomenon is the common anxiety in people that when people look at them, they think it is an aggressive stance, not a friendly introduction. Men are often accused at staring at each other followed by the aggressive opener "what are you looking at !" Men with low self-esteem can view women in a similar vein by thinking that if a woman is looking at them, there must be something wrong. Women can feel insecure in the same way by men making eye contact with them.
A very interesting scenario occurred in a new par in my area when I was in a bar in and a gay friend of mine could instantly tell me which of the barmen were gay. I wanted to know the secret. Well he said that if you meet a girl you like, you will hold her gaze for a second or two longer than if you were talking to a man. As gay men were looking at you in the same way you look at a woman, he said, then the gay barman will look at you in a similar way by holding your gaze. I have tried this many times since to prove his point and it really does appear to work. What we learn from this is that eye contact is the way to instant attraction indication.
Then of course we have the physiological aspects to eye contact. Pupil dilation and the following of the eyes. On a date which is going well watch the eyes of your date carefully. If she or he is attracted to you, their eyes will dilate (get bigger) and they will hold your gaze as long as possible. But in the instant attraction scenario with a stranger across a crowded room, remember that the quick occasional glances will indicate initial interest so act upon it.
In summary, get used to looking at people and make deliberate eye contact with people you like. Try it in a shop, store or anywhere where you meet strangers. Try and hold the gaze of someone with a nice smile and watch the reaction. You will be surprised. I keep coming back to the same key ingredient in dating. Confidence. Eye contact means confidence and the more you practise, the better you will get. Finally, always remember that not everyone you meet will be attracted to you, so expect some glances never to be returned. Making eye contact is fun. Try it out but please dont GAZE. I love u all.

Trust - The Basis of Dating

To paraphrase the opening lines of one of my favorite movies, Casino, spoken by Robert DeNiro; "When you love someone, you trust them, there is no other way. You give them the keys to everything that's yours, otherwise what's the point". For me, those words sum up a lifetime of dating and relationships for the very essence of any relationships is quite simply, TRUST.
It is a word that we mention regularly without really thinking about what it really means. Well we kind of know but rarely do we talk about its importance. Trust is when we implicitly rely on the truth about our situation and what we are told and what we are led to believe. We give trust and we take trust at face value. We believe in the person we are dating, in the person we love and we do not question it. Trust is unspoken, it is not denied, it is part of everything we place our faith in. When we talk about 'head-games' we are often referring to trust or a lack of it. And believe me u cant Love without Trusting and u cant Trust wthout Loving. But my ex said she Trusted me but never hd any feelings for me-Love- Incredible i guess.
Trust is the foundation of our dating experience because we want to be able to rely on someone and be relied upon. It is a tow-way faith experience where both parties have a support system that has undeniable truth at its core. In the first hours of our first date with someone we really like, we attempt to establish that trust. We ask questions and receive answers and we rely upon the basic truth in the picture that unfolds hoping for a fture together.
I often hear people saying that trust comes in time and that there will be no true love until trust is created. The issue I have with that is in its inherent lack of faith. When someone says they want to build up a level of trust they really mean that their trust in someone previously had been badly damaged and that they are cautious and have barriers that they need to remove over time. Totally understandable in this day and age. However by not trusting in the beginning you are denying the possibilities of truth at the early stages.Am 100 percent right. You are skeptical and unforgiving to avoid hurt. Do you believe that love or attraction at first sight requires months of trust building afterwards and probably not years.
Caution is inherently valuable when dating and being careful with what we are being led to believe is wise, but only up to a point. To not be believed takes away the romance of an occasion. Love is often about spontaneity and risk and to this extent we often find that powerful kind of emotional love when we are younger. As time goes by we are adept to trust people less due to a history of deceit and being lied to. It is often said that we get harder as we get older. That is a shame. How then can we hope to regain that level of innocent and powerful love and romance we may have experienced when we were, say 18 years old?
Think about the opening quote I made from one of my numerous models, AlPacino, and ask yourself how open you really are to new people,situations and emotions. Have yo reached a point where it would be impossible to go back and be immediately trusting, or do you think that with the right person you could throw caution to the wind. By analyzing yourself in this way, you can interpret how a future relationship might develop. Where a previous relationship has been abusive, trust will of course take time to build up but at the same time you can be cautious and semi-open. To do this you must date wisely and you must select potential partners well who are rear like me- Am serious.This is why I often emphasize how and why you must plan your dating carefully and be really prepared.
To find a future relationship that has romance and passion you do need to open up your heart and you do need to find a level of trust in someone fairly early on that will allow your potential partner to feel that sense of romance and passion too. Someone who constantly feels that have to prove themselves will quickly get tired if they are genuine and will ultimately move on. None of us want to be seen as untrustworthy so keep that in the back of your mind always.
When you date it is very natural to ask lots of questions and note the answers, even if they are hidden deep within happy conversation. Cross checking on the first few dates is natural too and often the path to quickly building that trust. Few people are expert liars and this is because it requires an stupendously good memory. Most people who try and mislead you will be caught out by the second or third date. This is why you should never sleep with a person too soon either but am not saying u should declare a Platonic realationship from the first date. So taking your time when dating will allow trust to build because you will feel confident in what you are being told.
The other thing to bear in mind is that the specifics of trust are not written in stone. There are few people in this word who haven't told a little white lie. Dating can be a powerful and emotional experience and people want to make a good impression. Therefore on any first few dates you can imagine that some minor details may have been exaggerated. This does NOT mean the person you are dating is bad. But you do need to satisfy yourself of the truth and decide accordingly. Where you do need to be cautious is when you are kept in the dark about more key details such as career, area they live in, friends, and family etc. A person who is open and truly honest will be able to talk for hours about anything that crops up. Evasive behavior should always be treated with caution.
Once a relationship has developed then you will have already covered the foundations of trust, otherwise you will not have got this far. But caution still prevails which is why people like relationships to develop slowly as they grow older. Your levels of trust in someone may well be gradual until you reach a plateau where you can then make some major decisions to take your new relationship to another level. Such as moving in together or making vacation plans.
The key aspect of trust in any relationship is trusting your own judgment. It has got you this far in life so why start worrying now? If you truly believe you are right then go with it because as I said earlier, putting your faith in someone always involves RISK. If you are unable to take that risk, your new relationship cannot grow. Buy a calculated risk is different than throwing caution to the wind, which is why you must be patient but not for too long. Chemistry plays a major part in successful relationships and therefore you will know when things feel right.
Whilst I agree fully with the opening sentiment and I personally do trust from the very start because that's the kind of person I am, my own rule about trust when dating and in any relationship. ANYTHING YOU DO BE NATURAL. I love u all.

What Do Men Want ?

Women often tell me that men confuse them and that they are unsure what a man is really looking for. They have tried to please them in the past and it hasn't worked so no, the man can concentrate on pleasing them or leave. If the media is to be believed, many women don't care what a man is looking for anymore because they have been empowered by their own sexuality and are comfortable in their new role as sexually liberated career woman in charge of their own destiny. In which case, as long as the man wants them, that is fine. It doesn't matter whether that view is actually true or not. What is true is that the modern man is increasingly struggling to find his place in the world. The Armed Forces and Space programs quite rightly have very highly qualified career women working in their departments and in most aspects of industry, women are excelling. The old male bastions are crumbling and with them their innate self respect as well as their understanding of how they should act and what they desire. Any woman reading this may say well it's a problem for men and they should deal with it. Absolutely I can reply, but you cannot expect miracles instantly. Generations of history dictating a man's role and function cannot be decided and altered in the space of 20 years without some fallout. Few can argue against the excitement felt by women as their empowerment continues but at the same time, one must expect issues to coincide with this. And one of those as I said is the question of understanding what the modern man is looking for. Men have started to evolve and are starting to grasp the fact that their role may not be as it once was. 'Starting' is the operative word because this does not mean that there aren't large swathes of the world where men insist on being the breadwinner and women should still remain at home rearing children. It is going to take a long time to change the world. However in our western cities a change is in full swing. Men know that to find a mate they are going to have to work harder than ever before and they are aware that women call the shots far more than ever before. But this doesn't essentially change what a man is looking for.
Okay so what is a man seeking?
First of all a man is seeking a love-interest. This may surprise many women but men like to love and they like being loved in return. The problem is that many women come across as impassioned and cold. It is not easy to find a loving woman and it is very noticeable how many men try and hang on when they think they have found their Miss Right.

Men are seeking a woman who is attractive to them. Women may despair that men can be so shallow and that looks could matter so much but be careful. Men aren't necessarily looking for a catwalk model and many men don't like women who weigh 80lbs. But men do want a woman who takes pride in their appearance (though not excessively). Men are proud of having a girlfriend who looks good and I don't believe any man who says otherwise.

Men are looking for a trustworthy girl, someone they can have faith in and someone who will be there for them. This may sound like an odd thing to say, but the fact is, some women are not trustworthy and many are not faithful either. So many in fact that men are increasingly wary. That kiss at a Christmas party may not count, or the flirtatious behavior with the gorgeous barman and in fact its all great fun and part of a woman's character. But reverse the situation and as a woman, you hate him doing the same. A man can never forgive a woman being unfaithful and so he is looking for someone who he really does trust.

Men want to make a home eventually and are looking for a woman who will be a willing sharer in home life. Women with a sociable lifestyle are attractive because they can be relied upon to keep the social diary running in a long term relationship.

Men are seeking women who are feminine gentle and kind because deep down the qualities that make a woman a great mother are an attraction in themselves. I am not suggesting that the man himself needs mothering, though some do, it is more the point that men seek the attributes in women that point to someone who would make a great mother to future offspring.

Men want women with a great sense of humor. Women often come across as uptight or too bothered by too many small details. You will sometimes hear mention of a girl who is 'one of the boys'. What this means is that she is able to fit in with their humor and is sociable and fun to be with. Such women are extremely attractive to many men. Men want to have a good time and relax when not working and so their ideal partners are women who are able to do the same.

Men are looking for women who retain their femininity and and are caring and kind. In recent years, aping men may be a female fashion statement, but it doesn't make them attractive. Whilst every woman in the world burps and farts and has the right to drink pints of beer, it doesn't necessarily attract them to the opposite sex. Women can get angry and say well men will just have to get used to it, but the issue is that they don't. They can just choose not to go for women who act in the same way as their drinking buddies.

Men want someone who is supportive. Many women are quick to criticize men in their behavior, career and set about trying to alter them and mould them. This is a crucial mistake. Men can be manipulated yes, but they see their partnerships as support systems. The best relationships work both ways in terms of support. Where a woman is not able or willing to give that support and is too quick to criticize then she may lose her man.

Men don't like angry women who shout. They want a woman who can debate and converse and is able to discuss. Communication is king. A fiery passionate temperament may have made you interesting and challenging on day one. But by day 500 it holds no glory whatsoever.

Men love a challenging woman, someone who keeps them on their toes. Men are generally lazy in relationships once they feel they're in secure territory. When a man is challenged so he does something about it. If you want to keep your man interested, keep him challenged.

Men are generally more reserved about sex than women. This is my experience is a fact. Men know what they like in bed and tend to stick to it. The adventurous sexual appetite in most men isn't there even if they are convinced it is. Men in reality are quite conservative. Sexually adventurous has nothing to do with having lots of partners and more to do with the things they will try with the same partner. In most test cases I have conducted, it is the man who looks for a quiet time in the bedroom and the woman who ultimately becomes bored.

Men want a woman who will commit to them. Though increasingly this is hard to find, it doesn't take away the wish. Men want a girlfriend who they can share with and trust and be open with. Commitment is not a one way street and therefore men are struggling to find the levels of commitment they found previously. But the need is still there.

Men don't want to be alone.

This column can easily fire a great debate and I may be accused of being completely wrong but that is the beauty of opinions. We all have them. The fact is, a modern man is seeking a reliable, sexy, single girl with whom he can have a long term relationship with. He wants to have fun, share his life and ultimately settle down. There are a few long term bachelors but not that many. The problem guys have is that the world has changed. They don't necessarily want to have children and settle down straight away, but it will come. They do seek self-respect even if they are not the primary breadwinner and they seek respect from their partner. Please do call and tell me how u fl about this article. I love you all.

EMOTIONS- GET THEM UNDER.

I have been under going some trauma cos my girl kick my ass out of her life probably because am not hansome and nice enough to be her guy. Anyway "whatever" am back. So folks lets talk about EMOTIONS.
One way to control your emotions is to know what or who you are dealing with. That is, if you are feeling angry with someone (or something), it is important that you know exactly why you're irate.
Furthermore, you must know to what degree you are feeling your emotion. If someone killed my kid, I'd be a hell of a lot more emotional and volatile than if someone spilled a drink on my Brioni suit or fucked my girlfriend in a party.
What I'm saying, folks, is that you have to gauge what you are feeling to know how much damage you can inflict if you lose your cool. Afterwards, control yourself before you fly off the handle and you would be all on your own.
You are now aware that no matter what you do or say, you will always have emotions. Some people are more emotional than others, but emotions creep up on all of us at one point or another.
Thus, it is important that you learn how to deal with your emotions. I don't mean this in the same way some shrink would. I'm not going to tell you to let it all out and start babbling about what bothers you until you start crying. A last point I want to make is that you should never wear your emotions on your sleeve. People should not be able to know how you are feeling simply by looking at you if they do then they can fuck around with you or even fuck with you and even you. Believe me no matter how close the person is never let them know how you feel by mere looking at you so by so doing u can always keep them on alert expecting the unexpected always. Emotions are just human but controling them are just for special people- Be One. Love you all.

Top Ways To Melt Her Heart

Plan a trip together: Surprise her with brochures from an area she has always wanted to visit. Make the trip she has always dreamed of, come true. You will have a blast and she will always cherish the memories you will build together.Hey remember is for a chick you wanna call your wife.

Take care of her when she's sick: Go over to her place with a rose, cough syrup, chicken soup, whatever you think might help. Don't expect any action on that day. But I guarantee that you will score points beyond your wildest dreams.But unfortunately my babe doesnt get sick- Thanks to God and her eating styles.

Entertain her parents: Put on a show, take the time to talk to them respectfully. She will love you for it. Be careful though because you can quickly be labeled as marriage material, and then you will have to kill them all if that's not what you want.If you notice such please start keeping away for some while.

Treat her like a princess: Am good at that. This one is for the days in between special occasions: listen to her; compliment her every time you think of something you don't like about yourself. Make her feel like you have found a diamond in the rough and you will never leave her side.But dont flatter and if you do dont let her know- I dont advice you do.

Find out what she wants:Some chicks dont need what others need so ask.Jewelry is the easy way out boys but my girl prefers "TIME" to any other material thing, I guess. Find out, get it for her, and she will love you. Be careful not to offer her a family heirloom unless she is the one you will marry (keep it in the family, son).

Send her flowers at work : Why send flowers to her house when only her alone would meet it. Send them to work (or class) when you can let her show off amog her friends but dont if she is the shy type. And guys, there are many more flowers out there than just roses. Go look for them now.

Stay home and drink together: Want to spice up a "stay at home" evening? Nothing says I want you bad like drinking some chilled soft drinks. By the time the drink is over and the buzz is starting, you gonna be surprise. Believe me.

Cook her something special: I did and she enjoyed it, My most successful meal has a perfect batting average: mussels. I know they say that oysters ares the best aphrodisiac. Am sorry, i are thinking wrongly now. Bye for today.

Top Things To Discuss On A First Date

So you finally gathered enough courage to go talk to the cute redhead who caught your eye; your friends aren't impressed just yet. You finally develop the backbone to ask her out; now your friends are impressed. They ask where you plan to take her out, and more importantly what you're going to talk about on that all-important first date. Your knees begin to tremble uncontrollably. Fear not, read this list and you will have the girl begging for seconds.

Avoid her past: Generally speaking, one should never ask about past lovers on a first date. In fact, this should be avoided until she initiates the topic (if she ever does). She might have been hurt or may still be in love with her ex. You also prefer to start with a clean slate, so becoming chummy with her and comforting her about past mistakes may not be the greatest strategy on the first date. The goal is to take off her lipstick by the end of the evening, not help her wipe the tears as they smudge her mascara.

Got any brothers or sisters: Usually a safe topic of conversation is asking about siblings (don't ask her if she's got cute sisters). Again, asking about parents could backfire if they experienced a divorce or separation, especially at a young age. But sisters and brothers usually trigger good feelings and score points for you since you're showing a caring side and an interest in her family life.

Traveled anywhere special: A tricky way to spark a girl's interest is by asking about past travel destinations and where she intends on visiting in the future. The upside is that if she mentions a spot she always wanted to visit, lo and behold, here comes the knight in shining armor (that's you, boy) and offers to make her dreams come true one day by taking her there. This also provides both people with some insight about one's cultural background and their openness to new adventures.

Drinks anyone: A topic of conversation, especially if the date is taking place at a restaurant or bar, is the kind of food and drinks each of you prefers. Again, not only can you gauge whether or not you share culinary preferences, but the potential topics are endless and provide you with a safe topic of conversation unless, of course, you are dating someone with an addiction to food or alcohol.

Any career plans: Asking a girl about her past education and whether she intends on returning to school is admittedly a double-edged sword. She might love to go on and on about her numerous academic achievements. But she might break down and admit that her current job has absolutely nothing to do with what she studied. In either case, you are provided with a golden opportunity to reassure and encourage her with an abundance of compliments.
How's your job: If you are years removed from your college years, then talking about work and career goals just might be a safer topic. Admittedly, do not let her go into the mundane details about how fed up she is with her life, which would explain why she's on her seventh margarita. But generally speaking, people like to brag about work, no matter how routine it is. It also gives you an idea regarding whether or not you are dating a future CEO or a waitress-for-life (not that there is anything wrong with that, of course).If she is a student ask her about her time in school.

Got any friends?: Ask her about her friends. Even if you do not know them, she will love to tell you about her circle of friends, how much they mean to her and where she met them (and all of the things they did together). Don't doze off though, my good man, this is when you get precious details about her. If you ever make it further than the first date, her friends are usually the best source to unearth the skeletons in her closet.(Am not going anywhere now.)

Hobbies matter: I asked my girl, Amanda if she like football the second day we meet she said no but believe me over time she has developed interest in it even with my best team-Chelsea. How about sports? What kind of music does she like? These are the questions you must ask to determine how much of a bond exists between the two of you.If she does like all the things you do try to compromise after asking her why she doent like does stuffs.

Be bold and look ahead: My girl told me on our first date that she wanted a long relationship, I accepted. Now, she is having a good time, is looking at me with that sparkle in her eye and her body language is positive, you can look ahead and talk about other things you could do together in the future. Admittedly, you do not want to rush too far ahead and scare her off, but if she's enjoying herself, chances are she'll be curious to see what other great adventures you have in store for her.So dont be in a hurry. Try this out folks and get back to me. Shalom!!!

MAKE IT SERIOUS.

I was serious ro ones when i told my girl that was changing for the worse. Yea i was.Here are some tips:
5. keep a straight face:One very important thing to remember when doing business is that money can be made and money can be lost. Business is not a game to be played lightly. The higher up you move, the bigger the stakes get. Thus, don't be the class clown. You have to keep a straight face and treat business as what it is: a serious undertaking among profit-minded individuals and organizations. It's the bottom line that counts, not the punch line. I'm not saying you should be boring, but you should be very careful about cracking jokes and generally acting like a goof. If your associates equate you with a court jester, then you'll have killed all chances of career advancement at that organization. Furthermore, word gets around fast. Playing it straight is the way to go.
4. set stretch goals:One of the best managers ever, General Electric's Jack Welch, has always been a strong proponent of setting stretch goals for his employees and for the company as a whole. Simply put, a stretch goal is a goal you set for yourself knowing that you may not meet it 100%. However, by coming close you will likely achieve more than if you set the goal to something you know you can achieve for sure. The stretch goal pushes you to work harder at meeting more difficult targets. If you are normally able to achieve "100" and set that as your goal, then the most you will achieve is "100." Suppose you set the goal to "110," essentially asking an extra 10% of yourself, and achieve "108." You have managed to achieve 8% more than if you had set an easier goal. These results add up quickly over time and those at the top will notice soon enough.Am i sounding serious. OK.
3. be pro-active:A good businessman will take a problem and fix it to streamline his company. A great businessman will see the problem before it becomes one and avoid it in the first place. This will save the company time, money and countless headaches. So don't wait for something to break before fixing it. If you see something at your company that could be improved upon and made more efficient, take the initiative and get things done. Don't be afraid to come up with a plan and shake things up. In business there is no tomorrow, procrastinators make bad businessmen.
2. do your homework;There is nothing worse than showing up to a meeting or having a discussion with someone, and not knowing business basics. If you were a general manager in the NBA, it would follow that you would know your team's roster inside out. If you named your guards and accidentally named a guard from another team, how credible do you think you would be in the eyes of those around you? My point is that whatever your business, the first thing you should do is learn the basics of it, not just what is necessary for your job. Learn about the competition, how their products differ from yours, who the players are, what future plans are, etc. Take the time to read your company's annual report or get the inside scoop from higher-ups if you work in a private company.
1. get results;You can posture as much as you like, but at the end of the day what really counts is results. This is where the talkers get hurt bad. Sure, they can deliver some great lines, but what they forget is that the only line that is important in business, is the bottom line. Have nice day.

GET THERE QUICK

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Luther Vandrose at www.luthervandrose.com
Ruben Studdard at www.rubenstuddard.com
Fantasia at www.fantasiabarrinoofiial.com
Wyclef at www.wyclef.com
Mario at www.mario2u.com
Omarion at www.omariononline.com

Jossy

Am a cool just believe it.

Saint 

I NEED FAVOUR QUICK.

Am in the mood today I can just stop writing anything that comes to my mind.Lets talk business again. How to ask for a business favour- I bet you this wont work on any girl.Asking for a favor can be a daunting task. What is so harrowing about it is that by definition, a favor is a free ride. But it's not as easy as that, where the only act of kindness is the lending of an empty seat. With a favor, you're asking somebody to go out of their way to help you. Do you have the guts to do so? The single most important thing you need to do is ensure that people appreciate you. You don't really have to be a good person, just as long as you appear to be. People will respond much better to someone they like. Well, that doesn't apply to the subject at hand. How to project an aura of amiability, you ask? Nothing easier.
Don't overly criticize others.Pay genuine attention to them.
Sincerely express your appreciation of the little things they do for you. Lend your ear to their problems. Encourage others to talk about their personal interests. Smile a whole lot like my girl.
The reason behind all this is that it's a lot more difficult for the other person to deny you the favor when you're obviously such a well-behaved gentleman. Would you turn down a plea by a man of the cloth, a man who traditionally embodies all these qualities? I guess not. Words as weapons. Wording is crucial when asking for a favor. I don't think there's anyone in this galaxy who would react sympathetically to: "Yo, Bobby, gimme your car please!" Subtlety and finesse is the key to success. You need to cajole the person into thinking you're doing them a favor. For example, let's say you need your friend to come over and help you hammer in your new house. Start by offering him a small token of your appreciation such as buying him a drink before popping the question. But don't make it overly obvious by sugarcoating the pill. Act as though it's the most natural thing to do.Hey! get started now, it surely works. BYE.I love you.

Mistakes Brothers Make When Going For Her.

I've met a lot of beautiful women over the years, but the most interesting ones were those that I met by chance: on the street, in a café( like my present girlfriend) or even at a restaurant. These women were also the ones I found most difficult to approach. The only problem is that the situation is a little trickier. Firstly, you only have a few moments to make a courageous move, unlike in a dance club, where you have all night to break the ice. Secondly, because you're in a not-so-welcoming environment, some women may find your approach suspicious.Unfortunately, some men don't realize that certain factors will deter a woman from accepting an advancement or invitation from a total stranger. Here are the top common mistakes men make when approaching a woman:
1.Forgetting her comfort zone: Just because you know you're a nice guy, that doesn't mean she will. It is important to realize that most women will be on their guard when you first approach them. This is normal, and the important thing is for you to come across as a harmless guy. A little humor usually helps.
2. Trying to fool her: The second biggest error most men make is that they don't give women enough credit and respect. Most men think that they can fool a woman into giving them their number. Women know that you're trying to pick them up, so don't beat around the bush. Be direct and let them know exactly what you want. By doing so, you'll come across as a confident and straightforward guy.
3. Approaching without a plan: Some people can improvise successfully, but regardless of the case, having a plan always helps your chances of coming across as a person she might consider dating.
4. Acting like a pervert: A lot of men sabotage their chances with women by keeping their eyes aimed down at their breasts. Instead, keep your eyes locked onto hers. You want her to think that you're the best chicker on earth.
Please stop these things fast and that meeting cute sisters on a daily bases. I got to go resting for today.I love you.

The First Impression.( unisex)

Meeting someone for the first time means different things to different people. You often hear comments like I Just Didnt Like Him From The Start, I feel in love with him on the first day and so on. They say 'you cant judge a book by the cover' but most of us mainly youths do evaluate people within the first few seconds of encounter even if it is just a glance-Men thats not right. Some even observe clothes, accessories, mannerisms, body buildups and style of talking. Ok as a lady how can you strike it right on the first day.
SMILE;The easiest way and best of all. When I mean smile am talking about natural geniune smile but not a deceiving one- one from the heart. What are you afraid of anyway? You even look uglier for some ladies when they 'bone up'. A smile is a powerful weapon which you can use to win people even enemies. You also look beautiful when you smile (like my girl.)
GREETING; This goes with a smile but when greeting say it like you really mean it. Most times you hear people say' How are you?' but do they care about the answer?. As a lady greet people maybe with a handshake and do it right.
EYE CONTACT; Eyes are the windows to your emotions. When meetng someone for the first time no matter the sex always maintain eye contact as it indicates an interest on what he/she is saying.Dont look sideways so the person does not take you to be timid or lacking self confidence.( Please eye contact is different from STARING.)
LOOKING GOOD; Am not saying you should look like a drag quenn or a monster but dres nice and a cute way.The way you dress tells much about you.
Finally friend be comfortable and be the best you can be. OK?. But dont compromise on the first day orelse he/she will kick you around until it ends. Stick to your principles but dont be too strick afterall. I guess you know what to say to impress the person orelse dont blaim me if you get snobbed after the first 2 minutes she/he discovers you have nothing to offer. Be natural. This is dedicated to all my friends and to my girl in particular- I Love You.